Codependency: The Largest Addiction in the World!
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Codependency destroys lives.
Codependency destroys self-confidence.
Codependency, destroys self-esteem, self love.
Codependency creates extreme procrastination.
Codependency can occur with a love relationship, family members, friends, coworkers, bosses… It comes from everywhere!
In 2002, we labeled codependency as “the largest addiction in the world“, And today I stand by the same statement that I made in 2002.
Codependency is so insidious, it can be so hard to see, to label, to identify, and then obviously it can be very difficult to remove.
I spent 46 years in the world of counseling and mental health and relationships and addiction, recovery and attitude and spiritually, and everything you can imagine, and in the world of addiction recovery, and codependency is one of the trickiest to overcome.
Why is that?
Because it comes laced in pretty colors, it shows up with good intentions… But the end result is always negative.
So when we jump and do something for a friend or a lover or family member time after time after time, and it puts us behind our schedule, or it takes time away to be with our family, or it takes time away to finish work… That is just one example of someone who is codependent.
There are over 2000 spokes, in the world of codependency, which means there’s over 2000 different ways it can appear, which is why it’s so tricky to label identify and get rid of.
Codependency can be looked at as walking on eggshells around people in your life, you’re afraid to be yourself or you’re afraid to have an opinion because certain people will put you down, so you become half of who you truly can be.
Codependency can be a form of peer pressure, buying the latest pair of shoes because your friends have them is an outrageously strong sign that you are a codependent person.
Codependency easily occurs in the world of alcoholism, where you might have friends that encourage you to come out and have a few drinks and you know it’s gonna end up with more than a few, but you go anyway because they’re giving you kind of a hard time they’re teasing you… And the minute you walk out the door, you are a flaming codependent.
Codependency can occur with money, where we want to impress people, so whether we can afford it or not we buy clothes or jewelry or cars or houses to impress others, and it always backfires, because when you’re trying to impress or buy people‘s attention, you are going to lose.
We have helped people who are extremely codependent to alcohol for 30 years become extremely independent to not only alcohol, but any other addiction.
One of my clients who is now clean for about four months, cannot believe that he hasn’t had a sip of alcohol in four months, and that his life is radically changing.
He has shattered his codependent relationship with alcohol.
Another client, a woman, was extremely codependent to sugary type foods at night, which not only made her gain weight, but interfered with her confidence, her self-esteem, and eating sugar at night will definitely disrupt most people sleep... Continued Below
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Since the age of 10, she had been calming her own internal emotions with sugar, instead of dealing with them.
Within six months, we had completely eradicated the 40 year addiction to sugar, which allowed her codependency with this substance to be completely obliterated, her sleep improved dramatically, as well as her confidence and self-esteem.
Another client, a woman had a very rough upbringing, not a lot of support from her mother or father, and had become codependent on finding men with money to take care of her financial needs.
Of course, most relationships like this are going to implode, and by the time she got to me after six really terrible ending of relationships with very wealthy men, she understood completely after about four months of working together that she had become codependent on wealthy men so that she did not have to level up, get a job, maximize her potential, instead she was codependent to men so she did not have to work!
10 months after we started working together, codependency with wealthy men was completely destroyed, and she entered her first healthy relationship in her life!
A major professional athlete, former client of mine, came to me because he was outrageously limited, in his ability to maximize his talent in his given sport, just four years earlier he had been rising and rising, and rising… He hit a massive plateau.
He had been feeling depressed, he had experienced thoughts of depression, but because this would’ve meant reaching out to a counselor, the peer pressure from other professional athletes, telling him that he didn’t need any professional help. He just needed to get over himself… Kept him depressed much longer than he needed to be.
And even with so many professional athletes today, making television commercials about mental health, there still is this underlying current amongst professionals that you just don’t talk about your personal life. You just don’t admit you have any kind of mental health issues because it might shorten your playing career.
Thank God, my client finally reached out and admitted that he needed help, that he knew he had waited a little longer than he should have, and he broke that peer pressure in that moment!
Six months later, we had totally taken care of his depression and he was back to playing at an exceptionally high level.
A male client of mine came to me, discussing the fact that he may be leaning on sexuality too much in his relationships, and he felt it was the driving force of why he would be with any woman was just to be satisfied.
How did he come to this mindset?
As young boy, he saw his father in one affair after another, and he noticed that his mother never said anything, didn’t wanna rock the boat, and so he looked at his father‘s behavior as normal.
As he grew up, he thought that you know it’s just great to have several women on the side that he can have sex with whenever he wants… But then it started to backfire.
He started to have women catching onto his intentions, and for the first time in his life, he was rejected three times within about three months because these individuals knew that he was just there for sex.
So he came in, and as we discussed why he got into this pattern, he was absolutely blown away that he was simply modeling his father from childhood.
This is another form of codependency, when we follow the role model of someone when we are young, that is not showing us the healthy way to live, we just repeat. The patterns we're seeing because we believe that if my father or my mother or this person of this age is doing this, it must be OK!
And another client, a woman, was role modeling her mother‘s behavior when she was a child that was codependent as well. On weekends, when her father worked, her mother would take her shopping for clothes, and hide them in the closet not letting her husband see the price tags.
As you can imagine when this woman got older, she started repeating the same pattern until her husband caught her, which sent her to me.
And yes, we shattered that codependent pattern that she had picked up from her mother and childhood as well.
As you can imagine I could list 1000 different forms of codependency, with examples from clients over the last 46 years.
I had become codependent to workaholism.
A long time ago, I was also codependent in my intimate relationship by not really sharing as much of my emotional honesty as I do now, and all of this changed in 1997 when I spent 12 months working with another therapist who was an expert in codependency.
She educated me in a way that was absolutely stunning, and from that year on this has been one of our greatest topics to help people heal with, codependency, because it comes in so many different shapes and sizes.
For your free 20 minute session on the phone to discuss how you may be codependent, or maybe you understand your codependent and you’re looking for a little help to get out of it, just text us 941.266.7676 and our office will set you up with that call.
This addiction can be defeated!
Never give up hope ever!
Too many people we’ve worked with have shattered codependency, our program is outrageously effective, and part of it is outlined in our book, “Love and relationship, secrets… That everyone needs to know.“
Now is the time to level up. If we can help you in any way whatsoever, I would love to.
Sending love, David and Team David.
I am reaching out to all of my former clients, excitedly offering you a free 30 minute session to help you prepare and make 2026 your year! Whatever you’d like to work on, creating new goals, letting go of bad habits… We will rock in 30 minutes and get you moving in a beautiful way! Whether we talk about addictions, relationships, spirituality, finances, mental health, entrepreneurship, grief, weight loss,… For almost 50 years, we’ve covered the above topics and more! Just reply to this email, saying, “I would love my free 30 minute session with David as a former client!“ And my team will set it all up for you.😊 For everyone here who has not been a former client, I want to remind you that we always have gifts for you as well: when you go to the website on the homepage, you’ll see 5 of our top 16 best selling books absolutely free! So even if you never worked with me as a client, you still have this opportunity to get all five books at no charge. By doing this, you will also have an edge and making 2026 your year! I’m excited to help as many people as I can. The whole reason I’m on earth is to do this work, and I know you and I together can help you create a plan of action that will bring you what you desire in the next 365 days ahead! Sending love, David and Team David
I sit here today, like many people, looking back at the last five years and understanding the struggle that most of us have been going through. Like me, you might be experiencing a holiday season without a loved one Like me you might be experiencing a holiday season that has been preceded by several years of deep trauma, that for many of us is a part of our lives… Even though we wish it wasn’t. In the struggles we’ve all faced, I think it’s so important to figure out what we’re learning about ourselves, what we’re learning about our belief systems, what we’re learning about self-care and how we treat others. Normally people do these posts on January 1 getting everyone ready for the new year, but I wanted to do it today because 2026 is in our hands, it can be complete crap, or it can be something quite different. It really depends on our perspective, our mindset, and how we’re willing to change what isn’t working now into what will work in the near future. Some of us have had incredible health struggles. Others have had relationship break ups. Others have gone through Divorce. Others have gone through financial collapse. Others have tried to figure out the whole world of grieving, after losing a loved one when they’ve never been in that position before. Others have struggled with finding the right job, the right career Others have struggled with deep mental health issues, anxiety, depression, mental issues. So we come to this point, and we can either hold onto the struggles that we’ve gone through over the last five years or we can slowly start to release them and look for tools that are all over the place and how to change our mindset how to change our subconscious mind and how to expect the best after five years of hell for many of us. Is it possible? Hell, yes! But we have to decide now… How we’re going to strengthen our mental health, how we’re going to improve our physical health, how we’re going to improve our relationships, how we’re going to improve our financial situation, how we’re going to improve anything else not mentioned here that has been a stressful experience for us in the past. Many of us will find solace in a deep connection by going deeper into your spiritual or religious experiences. Others will find solace by finding a mentor, counselor, teacher who can assist us because they’ve already been in the situation we’re currently facing. Others will find solace “community“, whether it’s business groups or Recovery, groups, or mastermind groups, community could be the answer for many people who are struggling right now. Others will find solace simply by letting go! By releasing the constant grind… By releasing the Constant need to “have more buy more“ Others will find solace by going deeper into the world of volunteerism, whether it’s pet shelters or reading to the blind, there’s so many different ways that you can start to shift your identity from struggle to service. Others will find solace by going into the creative world, by learning a musical instrument or learning how to draw or paint or woodwork or some other type of hobby that allows them to tap into different parts of the brain to continue to grow as a human being, not to get stuck in the negativity. I have clients that have found great solace in the last six months by completely getting off of all social media. I have clients in the last six months that found solace by completely eliminating anything to do with the news or political conversations. I have clients in the last year that never believe they’d be able to meditate or learn diaphragmatic breathing or learn emotional regulation or lose 50 to 100 pounds and yet they’ve all done it in the last 12 months! But it didn’t happen because they started 30 days ago it’s happened because they started 12 months ago which is the whole purpose of my article here! Now is the time my brothers and sisters to begin the change! Now is the time to start to really learn about the power of your subconscious mind and how to turn it into one of the greatest assets you’ve ever had in your life and I promise you this… If you learn how to master The subconscious mind in 12 months, you’ll be a completely different person potentially in every area of your life! I’ve seen that happen in my life! I’ve seen it happen in thousands of thousands of clients that I’ve worked with over the past 50 years… Their lives completely changed in a year or less! This is why I am Asking you to strongly consider taking the time now up until January 1 to really get yourself going so on January 2 you know what you’re gonna be doing every day in order to shatter the old triggers, to shatter the old fears and insecurities, and to bring you to the place that you want to be financially, relationship, wise, healthwise, mentally, emotionally… I want you in 12 months or less to be exactly where you want to be and I know you can do it because I’ve seen it happen over 1000 times! You have the power to radically change your life right now if you so desire! You have the power to completely turn around anything that has been a trigger, and turn it into a non-event! Believe in yourself! Believe even deeper in yourself! I am wishing you the most amazing radical change if that is what’s necessary in your life, so you can live the life of your desires, your dreams and create at the same time opportunities for others to see what’s possible… You become the role model for success! I’m sending you so much love, so much joy, and a prayer that you take 2026 seriously enough to begin in writing the daily rituals that you will start to follow in order to create what you deserve. With love, David 
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