The Matrix: Stuck? Break Out!

So, what is the matrix?

And are you stuck in it?

Are you even aware you’re stuck?

Would you like to get out?

Then you’re in the right place…

If you’ve ever watched the movie, the Matrix, you know the concept of it is that we are being controlled by almost like an AI operation, that the decisions we make are not our own, and we are overlooked by an organization that wants to keep us in chains.

I’ve watched the series several times every time I’ve watched it I’ve gotten more information out of it, but I do have something I want to share that I think is a key to understanding the matrix and how to get the hell out of it.

Number one. Everyone has their own matrix, in their mind, but most of us are not following that.

Number two. Most of us are stuck in “societies matrix“, and we don’t even realize that we’re making decisions that we are really not making…

Let me repeat that.

When you’re in the matrix you’re making decisions that aren’t really your own. You’re making decisions based on marketing, advertising, social media, the news, peer pressure from friends, your neighbors, individuals you work with… All of these people are making most of your decisions.

Oh my Lord, and we think about the political insanity. If you allow it to get you emotionally frustrated by watching the news regularly, these programs are making your decisions for you.

How I’ve been able to help so many people in 46 years break out of the matrix, is understanding that there are two different matrixes: the one I listed above society matrix which is everything that you can imagine that lead us down roads we think we’re making our own decisions, but we’re really not.

And then the second matrix is “the personal matrix in your mind“, and this is the most important part of this article!

When I work with clients that have 30 pairs of jeans in their closet or 40 pairs of heels, or I worked with a gentleman with 200 pairs of sneakers in his closet, These decisions are not from a logical rational individual. These decisions are being made by society and you’re just following along.

If this doesn’t feel comfortable, it’s not supposed to feel comfortable.

We’ve been lied to in believing that we are individuals making our own decisions when there are very few individuals truly making their own decisions on this planet!

And I was one of those people stuck in societies matrix!

And how was I stuck?

I was a workaholic for 40 years of the last 46 years of my role as a counselor in the world of personal growth.

I followed my gurus. I followed successful people that convinced me that “as an entrepreneur, We have to work harder than everyone else we have to grind, we have to put everything aside to make more money to have more clients to get new cars to get new houses…

But I was stuck in other people‘s matrixes!

I was following the damn crowd!

It’s only been in the last couple years that I realized this, and started to extricate myself from being as little involved with societies matrix as possible.

So let’s look at some of the ways we can get out of this matrix, too many times the matrix will encourage us into the world of addictions, over spending, codependency,… The matrix is pure hell on earth and most of us don’t even know we’re living in it!

Let’s get the hell out of the matrix now!

Number one. Shut off the news! Completely! You will find out from a friend a neighbor or something else what’s going on but let me tell you this is so important, if you’re watching the news on a daily basis, you’re being swayed by individuals that only have one goal in mind: to get you to buy their crap, to get you to join their political party, to get you angry at a political party, to make you think that you are smarter than everyone else, lol, welcome to the matrix delivered by the news!

Without a doubt it’s one of the most dangerous things to be involved with in this world, because there’s no way in hell you’re making your own decisions on your own.

Your decisions are being influenced by the tone of voice of the news, reporters, about the passion and excitement that they talk about when bad crap is happening, you’re in the matrix baby!

Have you ever noticed that we take things on the news as gold, only to find out two weeks later or six months later or two years later we were being manipulated like hell?

If we don’t think we’re being manipulated by the news and social media and peer pressure, we are completely underground in the matrix!

As we get off the news, we start to see ourselves calming down.

Number two. Never ever ever argue on social media.

If you argue on social media baby, you are in the matrix big time!

Our country does not want to be united, that’s evident, our country wants to be divided, by everything that’s going on and if you’re engaged in social media, arguing Republican or arguing Democrat or arguing independent your part of the matrix..

If you feel strongly about your political views, get involved with peaceful demonstrations, peaceful protest from any side whatsoever is a hell of a lot better than wasting your time and energy trying to convince someone on social media that you’re right and they’re wrong, lol, good luck with that one!

Number three. Peer pressure. Oh my Lord, no one is ever affected by peer pressure when I ask them, no one ever says that no I have these 60 pairs of jeans. these 30 purses because of peer pressure, but come on now, what logical man or woman is gonna have 30 purses 60 pairs of jeans, 200 pairs of sneakers… That’s not logical at all.

So peer pressure is making you think that you need all of these clothes or a new car or a new home or whatever else when maybe where you are right now is absolutely perfect.

The matrix says that whatever you have right now is not enough.

The matrix says that you need to be in a relationship, and if you’re single, there’s something wrong with you. What bullshit.

The matrix says that to keep up with your friends you need to be able to do what they’re doing financially, and if it puts you in debt so be it.

Number four. Begin to live more simply. Take money out as your God, decrease your expenses, so that the finances are not a stress.

Number five. Get involved with deep philosophical work, deep, spiritual work, spend your time in proving your mindset, your mental attitude, And you’ll start to see what it’s like to be an independent person.

Number six. Learn to meditate, learn to live with less apps on your phone, learn to spend more time off of electronics and more time in nature.

Number seven. Eliminate peer pressure. If one of your friends or coworkers has a brand new car or brand new heels, or whatever it might be, congratulate them! Tell them they look great if you feel that way! Then walk away.

This is just the start. This is such a deep topic. Living in the matrix begins between the ages of zero and 18, our parents, highly influence our belief systems, high school influences our belief system, college influences, our belief system, the people we hang out with influences our belief system…

And the list goes on and on and on and on…

We have helped thousands of people shatter the matrix, they live very differently now than they did a couple years ago, and if you’re interested in turning your life around, simply send me a message through our website.

Go to our contact us option, and let me know that you’d like a free 20 minute session on the phone to help you shatter the matrix and I would love to do that!

You are never alone, I am here when you need me.

Love, David and Team David

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By David Essel • January 7, 2026

I am reaching out to all of my former clients, excitedly offering you a free 30 minute session to help you prepare and make 2026 your year! Whatever you’d like to work on, creating new goals, letting go of bad habits… We will rock in 30 minutes and get you moving in a beautiful way! Whether we talk about addictions, relationships, spirituality, finances, mental health, entrepreneurship, grief, weight loss,… For almost 50 years, we’ve covered the above topics and more! Just reply to this email, saying, “I would love my free 30 minute session with David as a former client!“ And my team will set it all up for you.😊 For everyone here who has not been a former client, I want to remind you that we always have gifts for you as well: when you go to the website on the homepage, you’ll see 5 of our top 16 best selling books absolutely free! So even if you never worked with me as a client, you still have this opportunity to get all five books at no charge. By doing this, you will also have an edge and making 2026 your year! I’m excited to help as many people as I can. The whole reason I’m on earth is to do this work, and I know you and I together can help you create a plan of action that will bring you what you desire in the next 365 days ahead! Sending love, David and Team David

Message of Hope

By David Essel • January 2, 2026

I sit here today, like many people, looking back at the last five years and understanding the struggle that most of us have been going through. Like me, you might be experiencing a holiday season without a loved one Like me you might be experiencing a holiday season that has been preceded by several years of deep trauma, that for many of us is a part of our lives… Even though we wish it wasn’t. In the struggles we’ve all faced, I think it’s so important to figure out what we’re learning about ourselves, what we’re learning about our belief systems, what we’re learning about self-care and how we treat others. Normally people do these posts on January 1 getting everyone ready for the new year, but I wanted to do it today because 2026 is in our hands, it can be complete crap, or it can be something quite different. It really depends on our perspective, our mindset, and how we’re willing to change what isn’t working now into what will work in the near future. Some of us have had incredible health struggles. Others have had relationship break ups. Others have gone through Divorce. Others have gone through financial collapse. Others have tried to figure out the whole world of grieving, after losing a loved one when they’ve never been in that position before. Others have struggled with finding the right job, the right career Others have struggled with deep mental health issues, anxiety, depression, mental issues. So we come to this point, and we can either hold onto the struggles that we’ve gone through over the last five years or we can slowly start to release them and look for tools that are all over the place and how to change our mindset how to change our subconscious mind and how to expect the best after five years of hell for many of us. Is it possible? Hell, yes! But we have to decide now… How we’re going to strengthen our mental health, how we’re going to improve our physical health, how we’re going to improve our relationships, how we’re going to improve our financial situation, how we’re going to improve anything else not mentioned here that has been a stressful experience for us in the past. Many of us will find solace in a deep connection by going deeper into your spiritual or religious experiences. Others will find solace by finding a mentor, counselor, teacher who can assist us because they’ve already been in the situation we’re currently facing. Others will find solace “community“, whether it’s business groups or Recovery, groups, or mastermind groups, community could be the answer for many people who are struggling right now. Others will find solace simply by letting go! By releasing the constant grind… By releasing the Constant need to “have more buy more“ Others will find solace by going deeper into the world of volunteerism, whether it’s pet shelters or reading to the blind, there’s so many different ways that you can start to shift your identity from struggle to service. Others will find solace by going into the creative world, by learning a musical instrument or learning how to draw or paint or woodwork or some other type of hobby that allows them to tap into different parts of the brain to continue to grow as a human being, not to get stuck in the negativity. I have clients that have found great solace in the last six months by completely getting off of all social media. I have clients in the last six months that found solace by completely eliminating anything to do with the news or political conversations. I have clients in the last year that never believe they’d be able to meditate or learn diaphragmatic breathing or learn emotional regulation or lose 50 to 100 pounds and yet they’ve all done it in the last 12 months! But it didn’t happen because they started 30 days ago it’s happened because they started 12 months ago which is the whole purpose of my article here! Now is the time my brothers and sisters to begin the change! Now is the time to start to really learn about the power of your subconscious mind and how to turn it into one of the greatest assets you’ve ever had in your life and I promise you this… If you learn how to master The subconscious mind in 12 months, you’ll be a completely different person potentially in every area of your life! I’ve seen that happen in my life! I’ve seen it happen in thousands of thousands of clients that I’ve worked with over the past 50 years… Their lives completely changed in a year or less! This is why I am Asking you to strongly consider taking the time now up until January 1 to really get yourself going so on January 2 you know what you’re gonna be doing every day in order to shatter the old triggers, to shatter the old fears and insecurities, and to bring you to the place that you want to be financially, relationship, wise, healthwise, mentally, emotionally… I want you in 12 months or less to be exactly where you want to be and I know you can do it because I’ve seen it happen over 1000 times! You have the power to radically change your life right now if you so desire! You have the power to completely turn around anything that has been a trigger, and turn it into a non-event! Believe in yourself! Believe even deeper in yourself! I am wishing you the most amazing radical change if that is what’s necessary in your life, so you can live the life of your desires, your dreams and create at the same time opportunities for others to see what’s possible… You become the role model for success! I’m sending you so much love, so much joy, and a prayer that you take 2026 seriously enough to begin in writing the daily rituals that you will start to follow in order to create what you deserve. With love, David