Stressed? Struggling? Time for a Break?
Stressed? Struggling? Time for a break?
The world is struggling.
The world is stressed.
Almost everyone in this world is struggling with anxiety, fear, depression, addiction, and we’re not really quite sure what to do about it.
Could it be time… To take a break from the stress and struggle?
Is it even possible… To take a break from stress, struggle, suffering?
It’s interesting in this time of our existence, that my attitude about taking a break from trying to move through stress or move through suffering or move through struggling has totally changed!
For the last 42 years as a counselor, author, master life coach, minister, and more I have been at the forefront, helping people to never give up, never slow down, always move forward through challenges, goals whatever it is just keep charging forward!
However, I am changing my philosophy right now.
I think more people need a break right now than in the history of time.
I think more people need a break right now, but most of us are afraid to take it or we don’t even know we should!
For those who are looking for a career change, and let’s say that you’re unemployed and you’re putting in 6 to 8 hours every day into looking for a job and it’s not panning out, what do you do?
Take a break!
Is David Essel saying that?
Yes, I am, and I couldn’t be more serious.
Now when I say take a break from a career search or a job search I’m not saying take 365 days off, but I am saying take at least one day, look at the next 5 Days Circle the one day you’re going to take off and go to the beach, a river, a park, watch movies at home, but do not search for a job on that one day!
And the reason? We need downtime. We need something other than goal achievement or wading through the quicksand of stress in life, we need to take a break.
And what about if you’re trying to lose weight… And you’re doing everything possible, you’re eating clean, you’re exercising but you’ve hit a plateau and for the last two weeks you’re not feeling that there’s anything changing with your body.
Take a break!
Let’s say you’re working out five days a week, so take one of those days and go to the beach! Go to the mountains! Go for a two-hour walk!
But don’t go to the gym!
I remember when my dad was probably in his 40s, he’s 94 now, he ended up unemployed for a period of time and of course, having three kids and a wife to take care of his anxiety went through the roof.
When he went to his doctor to get some type of medication, the doctor refused!
Instead, he told my father this:
“Ed, I want you to be looking for a job eight hours a day, because this is your new job, to find a new job!
However, every morning at 7 AM, I want you on the driving range at the golf course, I want you for one hour to be on that driving range, give your mind a break, give your body a break from sitting all day long on the phone calling for job applications, give yourself a break! It will pay off.“
And it did.
My father’s anxiety decreased, and the time that he spent looking for a job was much more productive.
What about if you’re grieving? What if you’ve lost a loved one, and every day you just don’t know how you’re going to fight your way out of that paper bag of anxiety? Sadness?
My mom died seven months ago, and for the first several months I followed my own advice as a counselor and put myself through a grieving course that I created 30 years ago.
But after several months of doing intense writing, of course, I was crying every day, I knew I needed a break. I wanted to continue through the grieving process because I wanted to be free of the sadness, but I also needed a break!
So I took several days off from writing, several days off from talking about my mom, and tried my very best to realize that I had the rest of my life to grieve her, I didn’t have to cram it all into two months or six months or eight months or 12 months!
And then when I went back to the grieving process, the writing process about missing my mom, it became a joyful experience versus one that was creating all kinds of stress.
And even though it’s been seven months since she passed on, I still write about her almost every day, but instead of writing paragraphs upon paragraphs upon paragraphs, now I just write a few sentences, and I feel so much more at peace.
No need to push against the river of life, instead I started to flow with it.
And the same might be true for you with a business decision. Maybe you’re negotiating with someone to start a new business, maybe you’re negotiating with yourself if you should invest and start a new business, take a break!
If you’re working with someone else, let them know that you need 48 hours to take care of some other personal issues, and then you’ll get back to them.
And seriously take those 48 hours off!
Don’t talk about the new potential business, don’t write about it, don’t worry about it… Take a big breath and relax.
For our veterans and active military, who are under a huge amount of stress and you’re not sure how you can take a break, we’ve created a brand new program for you where we actually send you inspirational, educational, and personal growth books and videos every month that you can watch and read at your own leisure, as you try to deal with the stress that you’re going through right now.
You can join this group at Help Veterans Heal
For everyone else? We give you the same opportunity! We’ve created a brand new program for all Americans, and similar to our military program, we’re going to offer them inspirational, motivational books and video courses as well as other materials to help them manage and deal with all the stress they rest of us are under right now.
You can join this group at Helping Americans Heal™
As I say to all of my clients, regardless of what business they’re in, we need to be growing, changing, and adding new tools to our businesses every year.
This, “it’s time to take a break from the stress, suffering and challenges“ philosophy is brand new for my business, it’s brand new for my clients and they are loving the change in my philosophy!
And for some people taking a break will be 24 hours away from whatever goal or challenge they’re working with, other people it might be 72 hours, and for someone else under huge pressure or huge stress, it may just be taking six hours off as a way to give their mind, body, and spirit an opportunity to let go of the stress even just a little bit.
It’s great to be a hard-charging, type-A personality… Some of the times.
But we need to balance that, by taking a break.”
David Essel‘s work is highly endorsed by individuals like the late Wayne Dyer, and celebrity Jenny McCarthy says “David Essel is the new leader of the positive thinking movement.“
His work as a counselor and minister h
as been verified by many organizations, psychology today, Therapy Tribe, Theravive, and marriage.com has verified David as one of the top counselors and relationship experts in the world.
For more information on all that he does please visit https://www.davidessel.com
