Shocking Alert! Every Addiction in the World is Caused by Our Inability to Deal with Life.
Every addiction in the world is caused by our inability to deal with life.
The cravings will begin today for millions of people. For sugar, alcohol, opiates, nicotine… spending… sex… But where do they originate from?
For the last 28 years, number one best-selling author, counselor, and life coach David Essel has been helping thousands of people to heal from their addictions every year… But his philosophies in regards to the cause and the healing of these addictions are outside of mainstream thinking.
Below, David talks about the true cause of every addiction in the world and the solution for these addictions.
“When I was about eight years old I truly found out about the power of sugar addiction in regards to dealing with life.
I was living in Syracuse, New York. My mother was an amazing baker and actually canned her own jellies and jams and when I was feeling frustrated I would go downstairs grab a bottle of homemade jam and eat half of it without anyone knowing it.
Within about a minute and a half, I felt better.
Sugar has this incredible ability to numb emotions. Emotions like anger, rage, insecurity, and more.
Just like alcohol.
Just like nicotine.
Just like sex.
Just like opiates.
Just like spending.
Just like gambling.
What is this all saying about the cause of addiction? The cause of every damn addiction in the world is our inability to deal with life.
When I was eight years of age I didn’t know how to deal with my anger at my brother and sister, my anger at my mom and dad, but I found pretty quickly that sugar would take care of that momentarily.
At 12 I was introduced to alcohol which did the same thing in my brain.
At 14 I was introduced to pot. At 16 cocaine. At 18 Quaaludes and speed.
And then to make the circle completely full when I got sober from alcohol and drugs a number of years ago do you know what I went to lean on heavily for the first two years of my recovery?
You guessed right, sugar!
It’s a powerful drug. But like all other addictive behaviors and substances, the real cause of our addictions is our inability to deal with life.
I know, I know, you can go on the internet right now and find some incredible story or study that’s going to tell you genetics causes addiction…
It’s bullshit.
And how do I know it’s bullshit?
Because if genetics was the cause of any addiction at all the only cure would be genetic manipulation, drugs, and/or surgery.
And guess what?
I got sober from all addictions just like millions of people before me… Without one damn drug, surgery, or genetic manipulation of my body and or brain.
I have just proven that the cause of all addictions has nothing to do with genetics.
I have just proven that the cause of all addictions is our desire to escape from the reality of life.
10 years ago I worked with a sex addict, a woman, who would actually show up late for work several days a week because she needed to get multiple orgasms in before she left the house.
She didn’t like her job, was frustrated that she wasn’t in a relationship, still had anger and resentment against her father for a strict religious upbringing in which sex was looked at as dirty, unwelcome, and nasty.
She wanted to escape life, the life she was not enjoying, and she found that through multiple orgasms a day she could at least get through this thing called life.
Her sex addiction was used because she didn’t know how to deal with life. Because of her inability to deal with emotions in life.
Last year I helped an opiate addict get clean and when I had him do writing exercises of why he used heroin every day the number one reason was boredom.
Can you believe that?
But it’s true. So many people use television, food at night in order to avoid the boredom of their lives.
Walking away from any addiction is not easy. It takes determination. It takes willpower and it takes a team usually of professionals to help us get sober for the rest of our life.
I just can’t stand statements like “relapse is part of recovery… It’s not your fault that you’re an alcoholic, you have the disease…“ And all the other crap statements to keep people in the cycle of addiction.
If our professionals, people like me as well as medical doctors, really want to put an end to addiction in our country they will start telling people the truth: your addiction is caused by your own choice. Your addiction is caused because you do not want to learn how to deal with anger, shame, boredom, guilt, rage, insecurity… Every addiction is caused by our inability to deal with life and the emotions that we experience during life.
So many single people that I work with that are craving a love relationship will fill that void on weekends with alcohol, or food, or nicotine, or drugs.
When I was first getting sober, I was outrageously anxious every evening around 8 o’clock because that’s the time I used to begin to numb myself with alcohol and/or drugs.
Several years ago I worked with a woman who actually lost custody of her two children because of her various addictions and when I told her that the length of time a craving would happen for a cigarette or an alcoholic drink could be anywhere from 2 to 3 minute she didn’t believe me.
And yeah, when I had her use a stopwatch to see how long the craving lasted for a cigarette and/or a drink, it was exactly 3 minutes.
Through a series of writing exercises that I gave her, as well as amino acid supplementation to help with brain chemistry, she found out over the period of about a year that she could actually walk away from any addiction in her life if she was willing to do the work while the craving hit.
If she was willing to write about all the triggers that made her want to smoke and/or drink and then to fill in those triggers with healthy coping mechanisms versus alcohol and/or drugs.
It worked. Unfortunately, it took us longer than we had thought because she had been in multiple treatment centers that had convinced her that “she had a disease, it wasn’t her fault.“
What a bunch of bullshit.
Cancer is a disease… Alcoholism is a choice.
Cystic fibrosis is a disease… Drug addiction is a choice.
And why do I know this to be true?
Let me repeat for those naysayers what I said above: millions upon millions of people recover completely from any and all addictions every year without the use of drugs, surgery, or genetic manipulation.
It’s time for this country to wake the hell up.
And when we do? The number of people who are addicted to heroin, opiates, sex, sugar, nicotine, alcohol, and more will plummet. Absolutely plummet.
Of course, now there’s going to be less of a need for treatment centers, addiction specialists like myself, doctors that specialize in “addiction recovery“, which many of them keep their patients addicted by switching from one drug to another… This is a wake-up call.
The above article gives us everything we need to create a nation free of addiction… But do we have the balls to follow this simple and effective advice? We shall see.“
David Essel‘s work is highly endorsed by individuals like the late Wayne Dyer, and celebrity Jenny McCarthy says “David Essel is the new leader of the positive thinking movement.“
His 10th book, another number one bestseller, is called “focus! Slay your goals… The proven guide to huge success, a powerful attitude, and profound love .“
If you’d like to bring David into your organization as a speaker, or take advantage of a free 15-minute jump-start counseling session on the phone, email us today at www.davidessel.com
